Dating can be exhilarating…and also hard at times.
You love meeting new people and feeling that rush of
possibility, but you’re als
o wondering if he could be the one.
If you like each other…maybe fall for each other…how do you tell if he’s a keeper?
I’ve met a few men that seemed perfect for awhile. They were attentive, sweet, and interested in learning about me.
Sometimes it’s his “dating” personality, and it tends to fade and crack after a month or two. A few times it took a little longer, and it’s even more heartbreaking then.
It’s sad when it takes a while to figure out if he’s being himself or putting his best foot forward and going overboard trying to impress you.
Wouldn’t it be nice to tell earlier if he’s for real? If he could be the one?
Here’s 7 ways that will give you a good idea!
He’s interested in more than just your looks.
To me, this one is a given and pretty obvious, but I still feel it’s worth mentioning.
It’s super flattering if a guy is attracted to you and telling you how beautiful you are, but is he also asking about you? Learning about you?
Or do you catch is gaze wandering to check out other women?
He thinks you’re awesome just the way you are.
If a man is into you, he lets you know!
A man worth keeping will be impressed by your talents, skills, achievements, and personality. He’ll let you know he thinks you’re a catch.
The opposite kind of man will talk only about himself. When you mention something about you, he’ll skip over it and go back to what he feels is more important—him.
Or, a man might try to change you. It’ll start subtly at first with comments like, “Why don’t you wear the other dress?”
He might be nice about it at first, condition you to try to please him, and then meaner or more aggressive about it.
Stay away from men who try to mold you into someone you’re not!
He introduces you to people in his life.
This is a huge sign that he’s invested in your and wants you to be in his life.
He wants to show you off, too, which always feels nice.
If he’s keeping you separate from the rest of his life, that means you’re not on his serious list or he’s not ready to really have a partner.
He notices the little things.
He has a list of things he likes about you—things that maybe you didn’t even know about!
That means he really thinks about you.
It shows excitement and thoughtfulness that he notices small details about you and your life.
He remembers little details.
This is another sign that he’s invested , wants to impress and please you, and enjoys learning about you.
Now, men can be notorious for not noticing or remembering little details, and every man has a different degree of being capable of this.
So remember to look at all his behavior and how he treats you, and if he makes an effort on this one.
Some men will naturally love to learn everything about you and want to know all those little details.
He wants an exclusive relationship.
It’s smart to not go all-in at first and decide someone is “the one” right away. That can set you up for disappointment.
But there’s nothing wrong with dating one person at a time, and if things go well, agree to be exclusive.
It’s a big sign with a man if he makes a point of asking you.
If you’re having more serious thoughts, and he doesn’t talk about being together, it might mean he’s still playing the field.
And he can’t be a keeper if he doesn’t want to keep you!
He does things to make you feel special.
Is he considerate? Does you try to make you feel like you are his #1 priority? Does he check in on you and talk to you via phone or text when you’re apart?
He should give you his full attention when you’re together, and do things to help you out.
He’ll listen to you and be a good friend.
He’ll surprise you with gifts.
And he’ll value your opinions and desires.
None of us can be perfect all of the time, but a good man who is worth keeping is going to do his best to make you feel like a princess.
- He talks about a future with you
A keeper is interested in making memories with you and moving toward a future together.
He should actually talk to you and verbalize that, and it’s a good thing to listen and see if he brings the future up, or if it’s just you.
If you find a man who treats you well, wants you involved in his life and be involved in yours, and wants a future with you, he very well could be a keeper!