Oh, the oldest question in the book…
Why do men suddenly lose interest? Are they really so fickle and picky that a split-second word or action can send them running?
Apparently so.
There are reasons that will send anyone packing, and there are a few that send men packing.
Let’s cover them all since I know you’re curious.
Problems Scare Anyone
Let’s just face the truth of that from the outset. If you don’t have your, ehem, stuff together, it runs other people off.
So if you’re talking about financial trouble, health problems, complaining about an ex or putting them down, ranting about work, or just being negative or pushy, people are going to slip away, mumbling something under their breath.
And the given problem might not be a dealbreaker, but if you’re going on about it or being too negative, it makes people lose interest.
Your man might have thought you were great, but then after a few dates or a month together, you started venting to him.
We vent to our friends, and it’s usually fine unless we do nothing but vent all of the time, but it’s best not to blast your new love interest with everything you hate.
He’s More about Flirting and Chasing
Internet dating is addictive. You get to swipe like crazy and see who swipes on you. Or sends a flirt. Or whatever the new craze is.
It’s fun.
And often, we swipe on people without really planning to talk to them.
Or maybe we talk to them for a while but lose interest because they’re run of the mill, normal people.
I mean, there are some wildly crazy people out there in dating-land.
I would even say that there are men who put a lot of thought and effort into charming women on dating sites. But they don’t take the relationship anywhere.
It’s a rush. And then they move on.
Or maybe he starts seeing just you, but he misses the rush of flirting with women and making that first contact.
You gotta learn to keep rolling yourself and not get bogged down when people string you along.
He met someone else.
Most people will talk to more than one person at a time.
Sometimes you’ll have several really interesting conversations. But then you meet one of the people in person and click.
Or you get a little more serious with one of them.
It happens to all of us.
It’s a matching game so it’s not a reflection on you.
He wasn’t that interested in the first place.
It’s a game of numbers, so men will talk to all the women they find attractive.
Sometimes they’ll have several backups.
And some men will talk to any woman who will respond.
If you’re juggling lots of people, and some of them were so-so matches, or the conversation grew dry, the man moves on.
He might have started the conversation with you, but he was “poking the box” and realized quickly you didn’t have much in common, or something didn’t quite fit.
The chemistry wore off.
Another sad fact of dating is that we can feel attracted to someone and our feelings can then change.
Is he a jerk?
Well, he probably didn’t mean to do it. He was truly interested or attracted, but after a while of spending time together he realized he felt more of a friendship toward you.
Or maybe everything wore off.
You might have been there, where you realize one day you don’t really like the person you’re seeing.
The Big Reason Men Run
I know traditional roles have changed a lot and are continuing to change.
It’s great that men want confident, independent women now, since we like being confident and independent. Unless we need a spider squished or someone to make a chocolate run at midnight.
But that’s beside the point…
Men love to peruse women, romance them, chase them, and eventually win them…
Just not too quickly.
And men want to feel like they’re winning a rare and valuable prize, not a woman that they can easily get.
So a man will chase a woman and be totally into her…and then she realizes how much he likes her, and that she likes him too.
She sets her sights on him.
Men sense the second that happens. When they change from the “hunter” to the hunted, they start running.
It’s biology maybe. Or plain craziness for all I know. I just know it’s true, and if you don’t believe me…
….try suddenly stalking your new interest and see what happens. Try to pin him down every evening, or text him all day even if he doesn’t answer right away, or try to push him into plans.
You could say men are stubborn, and they don’t like it when you want to tell them what to do.
The funny thing is, you can completely control what they do by letting them chase you.
Wait an hour to text back. Cancel plans on him one night or sound hesitant so he needs to talk you into plans.
Don’t agree to be exclusive right away.
So there you have it, a peek inside the male mind, as strange as it is.
You might have noticed they like games and the chase. You an empower yourself knowing that—give them a chase and they’ll come running after you!
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